Love Sandwich

March 27, 2013

Essays for Giggles

I was on a long, dull, road trip with my daughter, listening to her inane Kidz Bop CD, when I was struck by the insanity of the lyrics from a Justin Bieber song, “As Long as You Love Me” and was instantly transported back to 1990.

The lyrics go like this, “As long as you love me, we can be starving, we can be homeless, we can be broke”, all sung by a 19-year-old multi-millionaire (easy for him to say).

The lyric and its intensity aptly demonstrates the kind of passionate, hormone-fueled young love that seems like it will literally eat you alive when you are somewhere between the ages of 12 and 25 years old, but it does a disservice as well.  I mean, that feeling is great, and everyone deserves to indulge in that nauseating, gut wrenching feeling at least once in their lives; luxuriate in it, wallow in it, throw up… but never forget… you cannot eat a love sandwich.

Even if you are 14-years-old, you are smart enough to realize the world is not a magical place with love fairies going around paying the electric bill.  Don’t mistake young romantic love for a job… a paycheck… an education… or a roof over your head.

You can feel it, without actually acting on it in some profound life-altering way.  Having a baby when you are uneducated, unmarried and broke is like the exact freaking opposite of romantic… it’s the soundtrack of a horror movie… one where everyone dies a gruesome death in the end.

Imagine being homeless… now really imagine it… hungry, cold, tired, sick and afraid… but yea, you got love, so you’re okay.  Have you ever not eaten for maybe 8 – 10 hours and had that spine-gnawing hunger that makes your eyes glaze over and all of a sudden you have an epic anger management problem?  You skip a meal and turn into The Hulk, but the love of your effeminate Justin Bieber-ish boyfriend is going to carry you through the day… no, do you know what is going to happen?  I give you three days and then one of you will kill and eat the other one.

I’m old school… 1987 – “Livin’ on a Prayer” – The immortal “Bon Jovi” – Tommy’s been laid off down at the docks; Gina works a suck-ass job on aching feet down at the diner all day, bringing home her paycheck for her no-account, unemployed boyfriend… all for love… ‘cause you know, it doesn’t make a difference if they make it or not, they’ve got each other and that’s a lot… Um, no, it is not… you know what is a lot?  A committed, loving relationship combined with shelter of some kind, an education, a source of income, a working vehicle, and some weather appropriate clothing.

So young ones… and young-ish ones… read your “Twilight”… listen to your Katy Perry… enjoy yourselves… just remember… be safe, be smart and know that a love sandwich has absolutely no nutritional value.

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4 Comments on “Love Sandwich”

  1. janineyork Says:

    Girl you rock!!!


  2. Monty and Monica Ray Says:

    Renea – you’re always bringing a smile to my face!!!! Carry on!


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